If you find that you have a cheating girlfriend, the first thing to do is to try to create some space for yourself for a while. It can be very painful to realize that your girlfriend has not been faithful to you. It can make you believe that you were somehow inadequate, and people can drive themselves crazy asking themselves what they might have done differently and where they went wrong.

But it's wrong to assume that you are responsible for your cheating girlfriend. To the contrary, if she cheated on you then the affair is her problem, and not yours. That may be easier said than believed, but the truth is that both men and women cheat for all kinds of reasons, and many people don't even know why they cheat. Often, it has nothing to do with their feelings for their significant other. They could still feel devoted to that person, and aggrieved that they cheated on him or her.

However you and your cheating girlfriend feel about one another, you should definitely separate from one another for a period of time. This will give you time to evaluate your feelings. Do you really want to take her back? Does she even deserve your love? If you feel like you now have a permanent wedge between the two of you, that no matter what happens from here on out you will never be able to trust her or enjoy her company fully ever again, you owe it not only to yourself but also to her to find another woman. And remember that a cheating girlfriend is likely to cheat again.

In all of this, don't blame yourself for your cheating girlfriend. If you made mistakes in the relationship-and we're all human-just vow to work on those issues with the next woman you become close to. Think about all the good qualities you have, all the strengths, and also remember that you have an exciting future ahead of you, and that you will find the right person out there to share that future with. And whatever you do, do not let one failed relationship make you distrust everyone going forward.